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Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is the owner of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness and author. Ross is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment. His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 110,000 copies and are translated into nine languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 17million video views and 185K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.
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I unfortunately live with a malignant narcissist and everytime i set up boundaries or i stand up for myself against the Malignant NPD bullying, he constantly threatens me by calling the police on me; he uses the threat of the police as a last dirch effort to gain control over me, everytime i dont do what he saids or if i do anything he doesnt like, he will use these micro aggressions and try to make me feel fear, by yelling hes going to call the police on me; i have to walk on egg shells in the house as a result of this, i have lots of confidence and i never let him bully me, i stand up for myself and as a result i cause a narcissitic injury, and he will call the police on me in order to regain control over me, cause he is not able to dominate me both physically and emotionalu like he does with most of his victims, so with me using the police as a potential threat to my safety and freedom is a reminder to me that he still has the control and power over me.
Sometimes the last stage or “replacement’ is another member of your family – near and dear to you – with behind the scenes‘hooks’.
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Addendum:
These people waste their own time, & lives – and lives of others- and eventually lose friends. It’s a lose – lose proposition.
One should warn others, and walk away.
Thank you for sharing your videos…I always love the saying by Maya Angelou "When someone shows you, who they are believe them." This is so helpful and also a tiger never changes their stripes. I feel its only for certain peo especially wolf's in sheep clothing. If they have your best interests at heart and genuine people that embrace change for the better, rather than you give someone a few chances and no changes…u start to wonder wow..focus on being the change within yourself to see the change in others. And that's what has help me. Give thanks!
Can anyone give me advice on dealing with this when 3 kids to their bio dad and this issue .. is it best to go no contact when this is the case and the kids have expressed their fears also? Much appreciate replies with this question….
I couldn't help but share this wth u Ross.. n I'm having goose bumps right now because I came to an almost breakthrough epiphany.. heregoes..
The narcissist expects you to be codependant or sldd n ensnare you wth their manipulation in order to ensure that you don't break the spell..of the human magnet syndrome dynamic.. right.. so they know exactly how to Hoover you back in.. to stop you from becoming sla i.e self love abundant.. Is by triggering/ activating your attachment trauma wounds… to mitigate your progress
F**K!!!! Im horrified n I feel like vomiting at their malice..it's Evil. Fu*K!!!!!!!!
Wow. I've come across your work in my final fase of battle against my ex. I am so glad I found you. All is summoned up in your words. I just have to translate it so I can deffend my self in court. I have a N mother and N ex husband, who is actively alianating our kid from me. That is final line to me I have to go to court and try to make things right.
I just wanted to say that I always find out his next move by talking about truth to him and asking openly what is he up to. Every time provoced by the truth in rage scenes he tells me everything, so I can plan my next move. I learned that it is the best to leave truth to come to the surface. That's how my ex fell into the trap he invented for me.
And I have one q. if I can; Is it possible that N mother can so severey traumatise her son just by being cold and distand/dismisive in his formative years? His mother was cold but otherwise everything was good enough as I heard from his older sister. She said he was not traumatised child. What is going on there than? Thank you in advance. All the best
9.45 that is true: PREDICTIFUL
they have all the same chess-game. I could predict actions and i was very happy i recognized that so i was prepared to do what i found meaningfull for ME
I got lost of my fears, still working on some other narcicists
who have the same actions and moves on the chess-game.
It feels very good that i regocnize it:
getting me, my lif an my fear in the positions where I want to have them,
Thank jou for jour video,
🙏
Head for the nearest Exit.
There is no mental disorder by the term he uses, self love deficit disorder. He misleads you into thinking you have a mental disorder which in no way is in the DSM. It is not that he makes no good points, but codependents are not in any way mentally ill but they are dependent people and lived too long with dysfunction.