In this video I demonstrate a technique that is designed to reprogram the thinking and feeling patters of a person with SLDD (Self-Love Deficit Disorder/codependency) who has been unmercifully gaslit by their pathological narcissist. This exercise neutralizes untrue and false self-narratives that were gaslit/implanted into the victim’s psyche.
By creating a visualization of a sympathetic person watching their gaslit selves, they get to see/understand/feel (though the eyes of this person) who they really are; and how that contrasts the self-hating insecure person with whom they have been gaslit into identifying.
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Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is the owner of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness and author. Ross is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment. His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 110,000 copies and are translated into nine languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 17million video views and 185K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.
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The problem is I cant fully recognize exactly when I was gaslight!! I am being told I have been gaslit all my life and lied to about everything! It turns out nothing in my life is true it was all lies! I can barely even remember yesterday much less my past and childhood. I couldn't even begin to explain to someone what happened to me I would not know where to start… I'm sick all the time my body hurts and I'm so overwhelmed and and depressed I can barely FUNCTION!! Basically I exist… I'm not living I dont think I ever have… honestly I dont want to even live anymore… I see little to no hope for my future and I have not one person I can trust because I dont know who did what. I believe there was also extreme physical abuse that I have completely blocked out … I think I know where it happened and that's about it. Maybe there are some types of broken that just cant be fixed
Thank you from my soul my friend! Thank you!
Brilliant video. I'm convinced of the gaslighting all my life but my reactions to it are maladaptive. Almost all my maladaptive moments that were truly wrong happened after gaslighting.
Hello sir, I come dipti Subramanian Iyer aged 40 years d.o.b – 6th Jan, 1980 my childhood seemed like a fairytale, as I grew up into my teens I started getting fits a anonymous man calling me to meet him, as I was just studying for my 9 th std and passing into the tenth. Men n boys of all ages started eyeing me to hv sex with them actually i grew up as a boy, I had just started menustrating and developed huge waist line had become very fat. My parents insult me with all their negativity telling me including the neighbourhood and whoever I come into contact if I were a boy they would b happy as I am a shame. Years passed by I graduated from school and college, I used to work I was into relationships who did not tk any it forward. I love myself a lot I felt that's y i was facing bad experiences. Soon I joined a call centre three hours away from my house, a but I hv had truly negative bad experiences by my family as they expected me to be a boy.n the neighbourhood. It's victimization. N a man has been sacrificing or he's, been that's for what is the concern. Could u help me for what I hv lost. I hv lost two marriages int the process n I still hope to marry as I stayed months in the marriages. I don't hv any bad habits. The worst part being I m being targeted for my sexuality I hv had normal friends. I feel this is something to do with spells. Even the lady who's a good friend has good knowledge on spells , n ghosts, angels n fairies. My life is reduced to meeting psychologists from 17 yrs. Could u help
Thank you Mr. Rosenberg. I was also in a court situation back in 2018 with my narcissistic abuser. It took so much courage to have him arrested after the 3rd head concussion that I received from him. He videoed me crying and raging in reaction to my phone and car keys being missing from the apartment, while I was trying to flee from him. Hours later I found my keys and phone hidden in a place that I would never put them. Hours later he gave me yet another concussion "by accident", by pushing a big door into my head. He acknowledge the previous 2 concussions, but also claimed they were accidents. His lawyer and my public defender told me that I could not claim past instances in court of his violence. He was under a court order of protection by this time. I had horrible pictures taken of the police of the third concussions, and he still got off. While on the stand….I broke down, and he was granted access to our home again. I wish I would have seen this video earlier and NOT have listened to the lawyer or defender, BECAUSE I had pictures of the previous beatings, and witnesses of the two previous incidents. He's from money, and I knew that there would be a strong possibility that he would get off Scott free, but my defernder informed me that if I were to talk of past instances there would be a strong possibility of him losing his job. I made a HUGE mistake by listening to that advice. I quietly left the state and left my things behind. I've been telling myself that I have PTSD from that relationship. Friends agree. I also come from the same background as "Susan." This previous video demonstration brought me comfort just knowing that there was someone that went through the VIDEO aspect of the abuse. I will continue watching your videos. I have many questions though……still Thank you again
The JEZEBEL spirit is a serial provoker.
Thank you so much, her story is my story. Is there some sick playbook they adhere to? It's been 2 years since I left I thought I would be better by now. I am going into therapy this week. Thank you for helping me identify this and I just purchased your HITCH program. I just want my inner joy back🦋Thanks for your videos.
All your videos are very helpful even though I am seeing a clinical therapist for PTSD from prolonged & repeated gaslighting trauma from childhood. Thank you🥰
Um how do I find help for myself, I can’t find proper help. There is so much to my story. Do you talk to people over the phone?
This is exactly what happened to me. A planned final discard 3 months ago! Eviction by cops and false allegations that “I” was the abuser, called mentally ill, borderline, because I lost my shit in anger. Shouting obscenities at my ex-Narc! I identify w/ your client and also victim of the double-bind! ALL because I lost my temper, resisted the discard, refused to move out! Wow!