I explain the inevitable fallout when a person with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependent) confronts and sets boundaries with their Pathologically Narcissistic family members. Confronting narcissistic family meuatment of them, the results in a cascade of narcissistic injuries, which decimates any possibility to continue a relationship.
The resulting terminated relationship is either initiated by the SLD, who no longer wants to be hurt or the narcissist, or by the offended narcissist, whose projected shame requires them to end the relationship.
Hence, the process of standing one’s ground, confronting narcissistic abuse, or trying to hold family members accountable for the harm they perpetrate, results in the SLD (recovering codependent) a “psychological orphan” – a difficult, sad, but necessary position to be in.
Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC latest book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) and his personal development, seminars, workshops, and other services can be found at his Self-Love Recovery Institute company,
Ross is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness, and author and is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment.
His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 120,000 copies and is translated into ten languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 19 million video views and more than 200K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.
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I really need your help sir ….trauma has affected me for over a decade now…im in my twinties i really need help
Thanks so much for the pep talk, you spoke so much truth, what I'm living and learning at the moment is exactly what you described,
Haha I'm watching in September
Here we go‼️💓👍
Holy cow bells,I was hanging on to every word you said in this video Ross,Have a wonderful 2020 Xmas and I think I might have one too🙏❤️🇬🇧🏁
Omg ❤️❤️you look so cute in that throw back pic💞💞👍👍
Thank you
Thx ☺️ for this video / info. It came at the perfect timing ⏱ as its New Year’s Eve today.
I dealt with narcissistic father issues long ago. Now I’m facing & dealing with the wounds of codependent (SLD) neglectful Mother …. & the entire family has turned against me ( shunned/ silent treatment mixed in with occasional criticism)/ I understand it’s coming from their protective walls/ guards/ denial etc…
Never the less/ painful hard process for me. This video / info came at perfect 👌 time.
Very helpful / at this moment.
Thank you 🙏 ☺️ Dr Ross ….
I'm very lucky to see this right now, having made the jump to orphan status almost exactly 7 months ago. Two siblings me cut off completely, each in separate episodes after I'd set boundaries in a very clear way – if a bit harshly. Then two friends who attacked me verbally over a political joke I made were discovered referring to me to 3rd parties as "radicalized" and "white supremacist": laughably stupid and absurd antics to avoid facing their own use of deceit, triangulation and fake, shrill, political posturing. I was really hurt at first but now I see so many troubling similarities in all of these relationships I thought were "friendships" – including my own complicity – and a good sign is I find it all kind of funny now. Thanks for putting so much structure and wisdom into a cohesive set of principles. Its really great.
No contact,no contact,no contact is the only way.
Bravo ross! I am in complete agreement with you.blessings.