This is a passionate presentation during which Ross explains why we must overcome our Self-Love Deficit Disorder (codependency) to finally experience Self-Love Abundance – The Codependency Cure. He also talked about his latest discoveries on gaslighting, combating narcissistic abuse, his Self-Love Recovery Program, his Human Magnet Syndrome and Codependency Cure work.
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Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is the owner of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness and author. Ross is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment. His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 110,000 copies and are translated into nine languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 17million video views and 185K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.
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Thank you. I’m such a mess because I passed my pain to my adult child. I don’t understand how I can have peace if my child is in pain. Guilt and worry rule my life.
I listened closely when you said that our children will see/ pick up our ability to love ourselves and it will help them.
I’ll keep going to meetings and therapy. Will listen to your videos and check out your books.
Sometimes I get so paralyzed, it’s hard to breathe.
I appreciate your struggles, vulnerability, honesty, and strength. Thanks for all of your hard work and sharing life changing messages. Much love and peace.
We need this energy back on the East Coast Dr. Rosenberg!
Been crying all day. This has helped.
Codependancy IS SLD. It really is. Nothing is wrong here except that. My life would be amazing if not for SLD.
Needs to be a faster method to self love
Hi dr Rosenberg and thank you for your videos. I've missed you live but you might be still reading some of these comments and I would really appreciate if you could answer a question that really bothers me and that is – How and could we recognize a narcissist in a very early stage of a relationship? How to distinguish real from fake emotions? Is that possible? I will skip talking about my experiences because I don't want to make my post too long.. I've been falling in love with the same kind of people and just recently, after my last horrible experience I for the first time in my life, have had this thought that actually it was ME, not THEM..I should be responsible for my life, I should not give that power to others. And that is the first time I came to these videos, including yours, and for the first time I've learned that they are narcissists and I am codependant.. It will take some time for me to learn how to love myself more than anyone and to become that strong person who will not attract narcissists anymore…But until I make it I would like to know if it is possible to recognize them before I fall in love. Once again thank you and looking forward to your new videos. Maybe one of those will be the answer to my question. I am sure many would like to hear more about it.
I appreciate eveything you are doing and saying as a therapist. Your channel is full of great information for victims of narcissistic abuse.
I came to this subject after getting therapy from psychopath father and covert narcissistic codependent mother. For those who know what I am saying is my life had been literally hell on earth.. only by age 36 after 6 years of living with severe panic attacks I found a therapist who helped me. She blamed my parents, while I was blind to this reality.. only after learning a plephora of information from speakers on youtube and books I finally saw pictures clearly.
When trauma is from childhood, person cannot see outside of the box by themselves, its hard to blame these victims for not changing anything in relationships with narcissists. From my experience every relationship I was in, Id smell a narcissist and run away for my life.. because I subconciously knew I couldnt handle that many narcissists in my life. Result is, I'm broken and slowly healing… I am all alone because of the flying monkeys attacking me, so I blocked them.
Ive been watching lots of youtube videos on narcissism. My ex is a narcissist. He would gaslight me, would project, and deflect all of the 5 years we had been in a relationship. Recently, I discovered a condom, which he proceeded to say was not his that maybe it belonged to me. I let that go cause why keep fighting and deflecting. 3 months later he comes "clean" was his condom. Then lie after lie until finally got some truth, but I feel not all. He used the condom that he made a mistake and it was the first time. I stupidly forgave him. Still my gut told me there is more. U see he had planned to cheat in Aug 2018 but said he really cheated on March 2019. I signed out of this relationship. Cant deal anymore. Point is Dr.Rosenberg, you made me figure out why I always pick these types of me. I have been married 3 times. You see I was raped when I was 8 years old. My uncle would pay me to sshh me. My mother did not believe me. He never suffered consequences. To this day most of my family does not know. And the abuse continued. I put the correlation of that with the narcissist in my life and why I always attract these kind of men. I take the abuse cause I was programed to take as child. I thank you. Going to start seeing a therapist. I had thought I was over this, I guess I am not.
Thank you Ross, THANK YOU 💛❤️💛❤️💛❤️
I love your work I am a codependent with a bad parenting please guide me through thank you