Lindsey Ellison is one of the best relationship coaches I know. She has superb background and skills with codependency/Self-Love Deficit Disorder and Narcissistic Abuse, among many other specialties. As the viewer will notice, talking with her is effortless and fun.
In this video we talk about various topics about healthy dating, setting healthy and effective boundaries, and building a self-love abundant future (opposite of Self-Love Deficiency).
We also talk about:
– Dating and relationships with a narcissist
– Human Magnet Syndrome
– Narcissistic addiction
– How to find healthy love after being with a narcissist
– Healthy boundaries in a relationship
– How to spot a narcissist and stop repeating the pattern
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Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is the owner of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness and author. Ross is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment. His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 110,000 copies and are translated into nine languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 17million video views and 185K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.
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You guys are truely changing lives thank you so so much x
Or maybe 1 + 1 = 3 (healthy 1 + healthy 1 + healthy relationship 1). Created healthy relationship being it’s own living/breathing 1 🙂
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A SMALL ACT OF SELF-LOVE. 2 things help me: 1. Before I go to bed every night I try to remember all the acts of self-love I did during that day. 2. Before I make a move, I ask myself what “the OLD KATHY would have done and I do the opposite. For example, A friend treated me to dinner tonight I always write thank you notes and I asked myself what would the old KATHY do ? she would’ve slipped a 20 dollar bill in there but the new KATHY just wrote a thank you note and let this person love her by not putting the 20 dollar bill in the card.. Something to think about. 😊
Such great stuff! Thank you so much, Ross, this has really helped me have a higher perspective on my SLD issues and abuse history in relationships and of course in childhood. Very happy and excited to be able to break the cycle and live life more fully, even more happy that I can do that at 22 years of age (well, at least begin the healing process!) and lucky that I didn't get sucked into the hell hole for several decades or something. Many thanks again, much much gratitude and appreciation for you. Lindsey rocks also will check out her stuff!
No Dating is healthy Dating
Mr. Rosenberg thank you so much for this video (and video links)
This week I am going to visit your website and I am going to ask someone to help me to order your book
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I have been seeing a guy for 5 months now. He lied to me about his age and the fact that he was married came out later as well! The plans he made were always very strategic and we still see each other twice a week (always on his schedule). I still look forward to seeing him and the romance is there, however, he lacks the ability to express emotions unless it is driven out of him. I wear my heart on my sleeve and have expressed love for him but he is living in this warped mindset that everything is perfect as is and he doesn't want his life to change. He cheated on me 2 weeks ago with another woman and asked if it hurt me. I stayed with him because I assumed he loved me enough to leave his wife. He had the story that he wasn't happy in the marriage but wanted to maintain what he had which confused me. He had me over to his house recently and proceeded to rip cameras out of the wall because he thought his wife was spying on him, yet he wants everything to remain perfect. He claims that he cares about me but I just don't know how to react to those words. It's hard to even really explain our relationship. I always feel like I'm questioning his intentions. He love bombs me then I don't hear from him. I miss him this evening but refuse to be the first one to text. It just makes me think that I need to figure out how to regain my power again. Thanks for this video Lindsey and Ross.
Really useful and informative..We all have the knowledge within us but it is learning in self belief and self trust that gets us on the road to healing and recovery..Thanks for your work and insight.
I agree with so much of what you say but I must admit that I am having trouble with one area. It is the idea of a parent being a narcissist, although may father had some narcissistic traits, I cannot label him as a narcissist. I didn't feel unloved and I always felt that my parents loved eachother. My pain came from having a mother who had a lot of severe illnesses and a brother who was an alcoholic and probably bi-polar. There was a lot of strife in my family due to my brother's condition. Neither of my parents had any chemical addiction. That being said, I was a kid who didn't fit the mold and was often made fun of. When I grew and my body changed and the opposite sex began to notice me, I often felt at odds with myself. I was proud of my personal accomplishments but underneath it all I somehow felt that I was not attractive. Isn't it possible that there might be other circumstances that create "self love deficient", people?
Thank you so much, Ross for your videos on YT!!! Ive been listening you for two years now. You helped me soo much on my way to live better. So true that narcissists first incorporate into your genoma by offering things you didnt have as a child (like feeling of warmth and unconditional love from the parents) and after testing your * immune system*, they slowly start to suck the energy out from your body. They are Troyan horses, like viruses, and all their connections with other people are precisely planned, specially with their partners. They come from the dark side, they are predators, search for their victims, some of them are extremly inteligent and dangerous. They are harmful for society and our planet. In the end they dont care about nothing then themselves and spread their nature onto their children, so their darkness remain alive. Both parents were some degree narcissists and I picked up that kind of partners. I lightened my history of neglected child through a hard selfwork, I dig deep into my trauma..process is not simple at all, because consciousness doesnt detect the danger.Simply I didnt know what was going on…saddest of all..people with narcissist disorder need a hard psychoterapy work but because their grandiosity they will never do it… Luckily I learned how to detect them… sadly they are everywhere among us….