THE GRAY ROCK METHOD DOESN’T WORK AND IS DANGEROUS. In this video Ross compares the Gray Rock method with his Observe Don’t Absorb technique, when dealing with a narcissistic abuse, gaslighting and/or detaching from a Human Magnet Syndrome formed dysfunctional relationship.
As explained in the video, the Gray Rock Method is a passive and manipulative method of detaching from a pathological narcissist. While it is theoretically effective, it is risky and practically unreliable. In this video you will find out why The Gray Rock Method simply doesn’t work, is often dangerous and too risky, and does nothing to solve the attraction patterns that brought the victim to the relationship to begin with.
Codependents or, what Rosenberg calls people with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Self-Love Deficients/SLD’s), might escape using the Gray Rock Method, but they will be back, as it does nothing to get at the root problem, to find the source of why you are attracted to narcissists.
In the video, Ross explains why his “Observe Don’t Absorb” method is much more effective, reliable and safe.
Ross Rosenberg’s latest book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) and his personal development, seminar, workshop and other services can be found at
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I did it successfully. Id love to tell you my story as a case study. Hehe constant as never ending improvement.
this is energy draining technique for me. I always have to act out or be a poker faced. Its making me abnormal gradually. For me the best solution is to go away and never look back so help me God!
Going to look up your other videos now.
it's just like with your physical health: if your immunesystem (selflove) is strong, no bug (narc) stands a chance
These d@mned pigs are EVERYWHERE! I hadn't realized it before I became aware via you revelators, Mr. Rosenberg, but there are in our homes, our work places, our churches/synagogues/mosk, etc. our government agencies, EVERY FRIGRIN WHERE! I need/want an ISLAND or I wish they were on an Island; we don't need them in society.
Grey Rock is a defensive method. Observe Don't Absorb is Offensive and is THE ONLY way to deal with a Narcissist. You should be always be in Self Control. Grey Rock is coping technique, Observe Don't Absorb is a complete shift in thinking that produces POWER. Huge difference.
I listened this video twice and did t get it. You spend 25 min explaining the gray rock method that everybody knows but I didn’t hear anything about your method (observe don’t absorbe). I would love to hear 25 min of your method.
I listened to your above video. I was brought up in a dual narcisstic family and severely abused by my caregivers . Once I grew up I found all my siblings are either psychopaths or sociopaths. After listening to your above video I have realised that they have followed the grey rock method for their survival since childhood.that is carefully avoiding passively and manipulatively avoiding the narcistic caregivers. I came to know about the term narciisst after I had already solved the mystery of my own life. That s becoz I used to think Narciissm is about Narcotics abuse and I used to carefully avoid the articles on it. I fully agree with your video that the Gray rock method benefits none other than the narciist itself. I think the grey rock mthod was highly entertaining to my caregiver. narcisst.
I practiced "Observe don't absorb" all the time since I was a very little child (without knowing it) with my mother and she got so angry all the time because of my way of simply stay there, saying nothing and waiting for the earthquake to end that she became physically abusive and aggressive…..I never defended myself also when I lost hairs, got hematoma all over my body and way badly injured…..I just discovered about people with pathological narcissistic syndrome some weeks ago (I'm 48 years old now) as I had my last abuse going on with one my clients and I wanted to learn to set boundaries…..this is liberating – now I can understand and learn more about my human experience so far…thank you for all your inspiring work and sharing – it changes my life!
Ross I live with my mom and I’m not working and she has been financial help getting through school. She is a very intense narcissist that I have tried grey rock with and it is failing. Can the recovery method help me in my situation?