This information is discussed in detail in Ross’s Chicago seminar, “Healing The Inner Trauma Child”:
In this video Ross explains that adult gaslighting requires a Human Magnet Syndrome driven relationship with a Pathological Narcissist with sociopathic traits, and a person with Self-Love Deficit Disorder/SLDD (codependency). He explains that the narcissist gaslighter purposely looks for a Self-Love Deficit/SLD (codependent) person who experienced gaslighting in their childhood.
A child from a pathologically narcissistic parent is groomed to abandon their innocently accurate reality for that which was implanted by their narcissistic parent. The child learns that if she can suspend reality and replace it with her narcissistic parent’s gaslit narrative, she might get scraps of love, respect, attention, and caring. By understanding the origins of gaslighting, SLD’s can heal that trauma responsible from it.
Ross Rosenberg M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, is the owner of Self-Love Recovery Institute. He is a psychotherapist, educator, expert witness and author. Ross is known globally for his expertise in codependency (Self-Love Deficit Disorder™), Pathological Narcissism, Narcissistic Abuse and Trauma Treatment. His book, “The Human Magnet Syndrome” sold over 110,000 copies and are translated into nine languages. Ross’s YouTube channel has amassed over 17million video views and 185K subscribers. He is a keynote speaker and educator who has presented educational workshops in 30 States/70 cities and abroad. Ross has been regularly featured on national TV and radio.
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I'm sobbing hear .it all makes sense .for years iv blamed myself even now at 65 .xnot a day goes by I'm hurt , that little girl is there and I live her .
What a lovely man .
Thank you mister Rosenberg
Narcissists train their children to be narcissists, they learn by experience, and field training.
My eldest sister is the Queen of Narcissists. She Learned how to manipulate the narrative and hone her inner witch by experimenting on her kin. Its sickening to watch now that I am older. Its like a ghost erupts in my belly as an unexplainable evil and dark force pulls at my gut. I feel instantly angry as if posessed by a demon. What's weirder yet is hearing her recount her narratives as she spins herself into a prophet or "the hero" who knew.
"See Mom", she will say "I told you he is angry". And then finish her spell with a final incantation, "No wonder why mom is afraid to talk to you," as she the proceeds to interrupt a conversation I am having with my mother suggesting to her that she doesn't need to speak to me… thus creating the outcast n the scene. Telling her not to waste her time on me..
To sum it all up, Its fkn wierd… It is EVIL !
Dealing with a narcissistic dad…help…I am an adult but still feel like a child…I am ptsd, autism, ocd, dyslexia, bipolar2, adhd, anxiety, severely depressed, and have tics and stims…help me escape…
I am so amazed and upset at the same time .
I am at a loss for words . Its like my entire life just came together and it all makes sense now why I'm who I am who I am not. Even a small glimmer of hope went through me .
My childhoods just a few memories, like as if short random movie clips. & I just watched my life like never before usually its a blur but each scene was vividly clear including a few I ve not seen prior to this video. Thank you so much for that.
Where do we go to find a counselor who can help with this and what does it usually cost?
I never heard anyone else refer to trophy child before. My mom had no need for her kids unless they got her attention from others.
Yes sociopath, my ex. I cant quite figure out which parent, maybe both, that I did have this. Perhaps mostly my father, but i see some things with my mother. My brother is very much abusive toward me. I dont have a relationship with my father or brother. My mother and I have a relationship but it has been strained. I do speak up for myself and I do not accept absolute bs comments or insane thoughts toward me or them trying to get me into a unreasonable argument.