THE GRAY ROCK METHOD DOESN’T WORK AND IS DANGEROUS. In this video Ross compares the Gray Rock method with his Observe Don’t Absorb technique, when dealing with a narcissistic abuse, gaslighting and/or detaching from a Human Magnet Syndrome formed dysfunctional relationship.
As explained in the video, the Gray Rock Method is a passive and manipulative method of detaching from a pathological narcissist. While it is theoretically effective, it is risky and practically unreliable. In this video you will find out why The Gray Rock Method simply doesn’t work, is often dangerous and too risky, and does nothing to solve the attraction patterns that brought the victim to the relationship to begin with.
Codependents or, what Rosenberg calls people with Self-Love Deficit Disorder (Self-Love Deficients/SLD’s), might escape using the Gray Rock Method, but they will be back, as it does nothing to get at the root problem, to find the source of why you are attracted to narcissists.
In the video, Ross explains why his “Observe Don’t Absorb” method is much more effective, reliable and safe.
Ross Rosenberg’s latest book, The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap (2018) and his personal development, seminar, workshop and other services can be found at
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There is a world of difference between the work and domestic setting. At work GRing is an excellent tactic aided by the fact that there are other targets for the narc to torture.
Thank you for that video
Thank you for that distinction.. very helpful for me very true ♥️
Gray rock = observe don't absorb. To ensure that the pattern isn't repeated however, requires therapy, self-love and/or re-parenting. This technique is mentally exhausting when it involves your parents — continuous psychological warfare while sacrificing/hiding your true self. No contact and relocation is my next option to free myself from the daily mental Jujitsu. The battle would more than likely shift to rumination of the past and awkward conversations when asked about family but, it's better than what I currently have.
Ignoring is effective but they always try to get your sight back on them or think they do. They use flying monkeys, walk in front of you, drive by your house, talk to someone you are talking to WOW for real.
Maybe I’m unconsciously gray rocking… I am not meaning to trick him but I really don’t care..This is my second marriage like this..I’m not looking to physically leave because I feel I’ve earned the right to have the security I have..The first time I lost EVERYTHING and lived in poverty for years..He threw other women in my face when I was REALLY trying so now I don’t care…I tell myself if he passed away I DON’T want another relationship..
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Hi Dr. Rosenberg, my question to you is: can an SLD also be a narcissist (covert or otherwise)? Thank you!
Narcissists hate to be ignored and you can Grey Rock them and it still doesn't work you don't have to absorb anything they say or react with any emotion but deep inside it does affect you you may not show it but it does affect you especially if there is abuse going on abuse affects everybody and the best thing to do is to get out that's another way of not engaging especially if it's that extreme and dangerous
Wow! Very informative! I wish I would’ve realized this 7 years ago!